am i not straight?! |
Determining your sexuality |
Figuring out if you are not straight
So let me guess as to why you may think you are not straight. You have probably noticed that you may be getting turned on by people of the same gender or maybe you are even crushing on them a bit. Now sexuality is fluid and maybe you once had a crush on someone the same sex or maybe you found someone of the same sex really hot that doesn't necessarily mean you are not straight. You may have fantasies, but would you want to act upon those fantasies. First you have got to know that theirs your romantic orientation and your sexual orientation. Your romantic orientation is what gender(s) you are attracted to in a romantic sense or who you would want to have a romantic relationship with. So basically it's who you get crushes on an who you would date. Your sexual orientation is different from your romantic orientation and does not necessarily have to be attracted to the same gender(s) as you are romantically. It is all pretty confusing and you do not have to figure out every little detail right now. Your romantic and sexual orientation are also on a spectrum and you can be attracted to any set of genders. You can read up more on understanding this spectrum here. So first you should try to determine if you are romantically and/or sexually attracted to gender(s) besides in a way that would not make you heterosexual. Ask yourself a few questions:
These questions won't necessarily tell you if you are straight or not. That is for you to figure out, but all of this may help. Also remember that you can go by any orientation you feel comfortable with. You can check out our page on labels and our list of orientations and their definitions. Remember whatever your sexuality is that you are not any less of a person. Check out our page on accepting yourself and remember that this does not change who you are.
- Would I want to have sex with said gender(s)?
- Would I want to date and one day possibly marry said gender(s)?
- Am I certain that I would want to act upon these feelings or fantasies?
These questions won't necessarily tell you if you are straight or not. That is for you to figure out, but all of this may help. Also remember that you can go by any orientation you feel comfortable with. You can check out our page on labels and our list of orientations and their definitions. Remember whatever your sexuality is that you are not any less of a person. Check out our page on accepting yourself and remember that this does not change who you are.
