Coming to terms with the fact that you are LGBT+
“It’s okay. It may not seem like it right now, but you are going to be fine. I know it’s scary, but don’t be afraid. You are who you are, and you should love that person, and I don’t want anyone to have to go through 22 years of their life afraid to accept that.”
― Connor Franta
This does not change you
You were always LGBT+ and it was just something that you were born with and none of us can change. You have always been this way and just because you have uncovered a new portion of your identity does not mean that you are different. You are the same person that you were before you uncovered this. Yeah you may feel a little different and wierd at first, but after you get used to it you come to realize that you are the same person. Your personality hasn't changed and you are just more open to who you truly are. You do not automatically fit in with any given stereotype and if you do fit into that stereotype you are still great and that's great! You are you and your sexuality and/or gender can never change that.
how active do i have to be in the lgbt+ community?
As active as you want! You can dress all rainbow and you can make the LGBT+ community a large part of your life or you can just be LGBT+ and not be involved in the community at all. It doesn't make you any less LGBT+ no matter how active you decide to be. You are still your own sexuality and your own gender and if you are involved or if you are not you are doing this all right. All that matters is that you are happy.
What if i am in a religion that frowns upon being lgbt+?
That always makes it super tricky. First off you must realize that you were born this way. Your higher power, however you choose to believe it, created you in their view and youbeing LGBT+ was part of that. God does not hate you for God loves everyone. If you believe in the Bible you may be aware that there are some verses in there that say homosexuality is wrong (right next to the verses on how it's wrong to wear mixed fabrics, eat pork, and get tatoos). Now I do not claim to be an expert on religion, but I will link you all to our page on religion and LGBT+ matters.